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Tensions have been high in our household the last few days.
It's official exam time for my 14 year old which has come a year early really as the school have decided to play around with the idea of having them sit 1 exam to get it out of the way. Just that important exams require a certain level of maturity to prepare for...
My darling son thought it was a good idea to play on his playstation yesterday to help him 'relax' with his friends. I quietly disagreed, yet for teenage harmony I decided to go along with his desire for an hour and a half. However, there came a point where mama had to intervene and suggest he returned to his revision.
And no, he wasn't allowed to go on there again in the evening. This didn't land well. At 19.45pm my son had decided he wasn't going to do the exam at all today. Or eat his dinner. Or get out of bed, unless it was to play on his playstation.
So we had one of those parent - teen stand offs which is not the most relaxing way to prepare for the most important exam you've had so far.
I'm aware of my strengths. Handling my own stressed teenagers isn't yet top of my zones of genius - I clearly haven't quite done my 10 000 hours here yet - though I am getting rather a lot of practice recently!
Fortunately, knowing how to handle myself kind of is, which thankfully kind of helps. Being highly aware of hormone havoc also happens to land in my area of expertise and despite my son's best efforts to convince me that HIS body was different and would relax better before bed with the playstation routine, sadly for him it didn't really work.
So did I handle myself perfectly?
Er no. I have to admit there was shouting involved, threats. My tween daughter also got involved in the heightened stress drama too so at one stage it escalated into a 3 way stand-off!
Yet thankfully I know my kids well.
Despite my anger that they hadn't helped prepare supper at all (it's part of their chores), and feeling like throwing theirs in the bin, I decided it usually does help to have them fed. We all get rather 'hangry' in our house. Like the toddler phase really all over again. So we ate. In silence.
And then, like the wonder of a new day, my children gradually transformed into the delightful ones I'm proud to call my own. Polite, reasonable, apologetic.
Meanwhile I rediscovered a little more patience.
We were even able to discuss the Yerkes - Dodson stress curve, mindset for performance and mindful breathing, all in teen terms of course!
Peace was restored as the storm thankfully passed.
Food, patience, a new tool and 'space' in our house are so often the simple medicines required.
You know you’ve had one of those days you’ll remember forever when you wake up smiling, remembering the magic of the day before. To be honest, I hadn’t expected to be quite so ‘wowed’ as we headed off to explore the Vallee Blanc in Chamonix. Dare I say I even thought I was starting to lose my passion for the mountains. Skiing isn't the main passion of my football and horse obsessed family these days, so we’d been doing other family activities recently.
Thankfully I have a fabulous friend who IS still passionate about arranging these adventures and gave me just the nudge I needed to get me out on my way.
LESSON 1
When you move towards what seems exciting, that’s often where passion is restored. And passion is vital for the body, mind and soul.
So we set off on our adventure. We just had to get across the infamous ridge at the top first. The thing is, I did this tight ridge over 20 years ago, along with a fair amount of back-country skiing and even heli-boarding. I had very little fear. Yet I'd awoken the night before, listening to the wind howling and questioning if it was wise to go on such a self-gratifying, totally unnecessary, risk taking adventure. So what had changed? Was it age? Wise maternal instinct?
I liked Serge, our ski guide, immediately. He had that assuring 'I've done this a thousand times before' look about him. He quickly reassured me about my fear. He said he actually finds it really concerning when his clients have no fear, they're unpredictable and do too much crazy stuff. Umm yes I pondered, my younger self would have perhaps related.
LESSON 2
We decided hence fear was a good thing in this particular instance. we agreed we'd call it 'wisdom'.
So under Serge's astute eye and blessings from the snow gods (who'd scattered non slippy flakes along the infamous ridge!) we went on to navigate the ridge with complete ease and enjoyed a rather magnificent powder run down the stunning mountain.
We stopped for lunch with ravenous hunger and big satisfied smiles. As we soaked up the sun on the terrace of the refuge overlooking the breathtaking glacier, our adventure took an edgy turn. The mountain silence was suddenly broken by a rescue helicopter hovering to search the sea of crevasses just a few metres beside the track we'd passed, just minutes before. A group of skiers stood waiting below where it seemed one of their group had unfortunately stumbled into a crevasse.
We were super thankful we'd hired our seasoned guide Serge at this point! He knew where those crevasses were like the back of his hand. We asked inquisitively, why on earth would you blatantly ski through a sea of crevasses as it appeared the group in trouble must have done? It seemed so obvious to take the safer route just 20 metres to the side.
Our discussion with the infinitely wise Serge continued..."Isn't life all relative?" he pronounced. He elaborated "To some, the safe route just wouldn’t be enough. They need more. More thrills. More excitement".
Just like we went looking for more with him for the day, when others staying on the pistes might look at us and think, why would they take the risk? Another ponder moment...
LESSON 3
Life has to be enough to stretch you, because if we aren’t stretched, growing and reaching outside our comfort zone, then we stagnate - which is a deathly place to be in itself.
Little did we know the adventure was to heat up yet another notch.
We clipped in our skis and headed off from the refuge.
As the helicopter still hovered to finish it's rescue, two para-penters approached from above the slope. One floated past gracefully. The other however maybe mis-judged his distance. Within an instant he was flung up into the air by the changing wind flow from the helicopter and dropped with frightening speed into a crevasse.
The helicopter had to head off to the hospital and return rapidly to rescue the parapenter.
Serge decided it really was time to head down: "Just stick with me!" he advised. We decided that was pretty good advice and obediently followed his every track and word!
So how about you? Have you done anything that stretches you either physically or emotionally outside of your comfort zone this week, month or year? Do you have someone you trust on your team, to help guide you and keep you on track physically and emotionally, despite life's challenges?
While you’re here do check out my free Five Day Energy Kickstart (just 10 minutes/day) to help you to get from feeling zero to hero! (link below) 😁
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about the author
Sally Dibden is a Health, Life and Performance Coach to driven achievers around the globe. She is the founder of The Wellbeing Consultants™ and HER Space™, a community dedicated to women’s health and performance. She also runs her Physiotherapy and Yogalates Clinic in France where she lives with her family. Sally specialises in supporting and empowering dynamic leaders to optimise their energy, health, hormones and performance. Her ethos being that optimal success and happiness in whatever leadership role - whether that be as a entreprenneur, busy professional or executive, teacher or parent, comes from optimal holistic health. Sally has worked with thousands of patients and clients over her 25 year career and understands the tendency of high achievers to stretch themselves. She helps her clients reach their potential with balance not burnout, enabling them to enjoy and sustain their ambitious goals with hormone, body, mind and life balance.
Could an advent of self-love fend off festive exhaustion?
No doubt you've heard it said - you can't love anyone else until you love yourself. Really is that true?
And what's advent got to do with it?
One thing I've noticed over my many years of practice, is that many of my clients (particularly the driven female ones) are often completely and utterly frazzled by Christmas. So last year I thought it apt to commence a movement of self-care for smart women, during this super busy period.
It's not so easy to enjoy a time of celebration when we're well and truly exhausted. To top it all, as the year draws to the end we can focus on feeling inadequate with all the things that we haven't achieved this year and our mood can quickly start to lower as the hours of sunlight fade. No wonder we get ill or over indulge! It can be enough to tip the most unlikely emotional eater to well, guess what ... emotionally eat!
This year I felt the need to go deeper than self-care, with an #adventofselflove because it's not just about having a bath. You can take a rather lovely bath with a really destructive mindset.
So we're off! I'll share bite-sized strategies to fit into your busy month. That way you can hopefully feel fulfilled, fit and fabulous by Christmas and enjoy the special season without falling ill or disgruntled before, during or shortly after.
So far we've covered gratitude and mindfulness. Next up wrapping up 2017, that's a big one!
One of my more indulgent self-love strategies is a December mini retreat, a night away solo, in my favourite chic spa hotel in the mountains. I catch up with my coach and wrap up the years' accomplishments. I start to set clear intentions for the year ahead. I don't like to hit Jan 1st without a clue where I'm heading! What would be your ideal way to wrap up your year? It can feel somewhat chaotic when there's simply too many loose ends in the air.
So is it true you can't love someone else until you love yourself? Only you can answer that. However, I do believe that life flows with much greater ease when you have the awareness to know and love yourself deeply. You look and relate to others differently. You feel fulfilled. And you usually discover you really are rather amazing.
Lookout for my #adventofselflove musings over on Instagram and Facebook. do join us in The Wellbeing Forum where there will be a thread dedicated to the topic. it's all totally free. My early Christmas offering to the world :)
Having worked with thousands of highly active professionals or athletes heading for burn out, super busy entrepreneurs who'd dreamt of 'freedom', and dynamic juggling parents who are ridiculously time-short, I've noticed the patterns these dynamic achievers adopt:
They frequently turn to sugar, exercise, alcohol or work as their drug of choice.
They feel real pressure or like to be constantly busy, perfect or perform at a high level either at work, as a parent or in sport.
Their self-talk is incessant and highly critical.
They worry quite a lot, often about money or those around them, even though they are wealthy and safe by any reasonable standards. Whilst this is 'normal' to a certain extent, it's gets in the way of them enjoying their life or focusing where they'd like to.
When life delivers a sudden challenge such as an ill relative or challenging phase with their kids, they're totally knocked off because they're already living totally on the edge.
So whilst they can appear very fit and successful on the outside, they can actually be quite lonely or ‘sick’ inside.
Something can literally feel 'off'. They're not always sure exactly what, but they know something has to change.
I could have also actually written "I" as opposed to "THEY" for each of the above, as I've related to every single pattern at various points throughout my life!
I get it. Life can seem fast paced and it doesn't always go to plan.
What I've also noticed personally, and with many of my clients, is what we do during our challenging phases is REALLY important. And actually often quite telling.
This INNER resilience comes from a place of deep knowing. From having a personal toolbox that sadly isn't taught at schools - it should be...I'll save that rant for another day!
So we're often literally set up to fail at some level - often internally.
To push more. Work harder. Exercise better. Control our food. Uplevel the house. And ensure our kids, students or team have the same discipline.
Something can feel like it's missing. Inner peace, fulfilment, full health or happiness - we just don't feel the way we would like to.
I find this is often because not only are we lacking some of the essential tools for personal or physical mastery, but also we aren't living in alignment with our true beliefs, true values and inner desires.
Hence we gradually become energetically depleted. Gradually this transforms to the physical, hence the health problems and injuries start to creep in or take longer to heal than they 'should'.
Because at a metaphysical level the body is incredibly wise. It feels every single mis-aligned decision we make.
This is the point many of us then decide to eat, exercise and sleep perfectly to rectify the dis - ease, and though it should certainly help, it won't necessarily get to the route of the problem.
This can actually feel even more frustrating and confusing because despite your efforts, you don't get the results you want, deserve or are capable of with your health, wealth or relationships - at least not all at once.
It's also why the New Year's resolutions often don't quite work out. Our efforts are often being wasted in ineffective places.
Do you ever wonder, is it really possible to enjoy great health, inner peace, personal satisfaction, love and money all at the same time?
I'm here to help you take a stand for having it all and empower you with the tools to equip you to truly believe that YES it really is! Not in some cheesy romantic movie kind of way, but more in a deeply fulfilled, healthy and sustainable kind of way.
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It's Black Friday and soon Cyber Monday apparently. Scroll straight down if you want to get straight to the offer :) The days when the world goes crazy with selling and buying.
I used to judge it - it's sleazie, salesy, encouraging people to buy things they don't need. Mass consumerism etc. Then I stopped. Maybe people are actually getting amazing value with 'things' that they really need? People are smart. They can make considered buying decisions.
I've come to gradually realise that my judgements are usually my issues. The reason I was judging so fiercely is that at that time, the idea of sales - putting my products (services to be precise) out to the world felt sleazie, salesy and yep you've got it, was maybe encouraging people to buy things they didn't need!
What? I got real! If these were my beliefs how was I ever going to serve the world with what I genuinely believe is a life transforming service and my gift?
I tuned in. What I 'sell' or 'do' isn't about me. It's about the life changing transformations that people enjoy from us working together. It's an absolute privilege to be a facilitator of change for change makers. I passionately believe that we're in an era where women can massively change the state of world. Whether that's by raising amazing kids or literally changing education, world poverty or political decisions.
Yet I also know we won't change the world stuck in fear, overwhelm or burnout. We need to be fierce and highly tuned into our powerful intuition. We need to be on great form both physically and emotionally with tools for challenges in our back pocket. Be able to respond not react and able to be fully present in the NOW. All of that, I know I can help facilitate.
So today I encourage you to check in with yourself. What are you judging? What are you 'believing' that's somehow keeping you in your comfort zone? Getting through to the likely fear behind these judgements and beliefs is invariably where you'll find your freedom. As well as the courage and desire to be both bold and brave and show up in the world as the best version of you.
With that I indeed have a shameless Black Friday offer! Actually it was and still is, my November Mastermind introductory offer, which was due to be released today. The universe is funny with it's timings to get us out of our own way don't you think?
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You could have your 2018 success support strategy nicely in place before all the Christmas craziness begins. Now that's another season I definately have judgements on...
Wishing you oodles of energy for your day!
Sally
Are you feeling it's time to release something in your life? As the leaves drop from the trees, you may feel a similar shift in your energy.
There are 3 main reasons why it's really worth stopping and taking note.
1) Systematically releasing and resetting can pay dividends for our bodies, minds and lives.
Like you re-set or clear your computer regularly (stopping it from clogging up and slowing down with unwanted data) we really are just the same! A frequent reboot can feel like you have a whole new lease of life. Suddenly we can cope better in a crisis. We don't get ill the minute the first wave of flu comes through, we feel lighter and are more present in the now.
2) Knowing what season you're in can offer immense reassurance during a challenging phase.
Whilst it may not be obvious or conscious, when we're tuned into our deep desires and fundamental needs, we often find our urges actually do follow the seasons. I found it to be no big surprise or coincidence that the #metoo movement has gained great momentum over this season. Like a massive release of energy, letting go of what's no longer serving us makes space for the new energy to uplevel and just maybe change our world!
3) Energy is everything.
Physical energy, metaphysical or emotional energy, however you want to describe it really is everything. It's involved in your health, your success, how you communicate. As human beings we are highly connected to nature. We are designed to live symbiotically with it. Doesn't it make sense that energetically we follow similar rhythms? As we release before winter, this gives us chance to hibernate over the darker winter months, ready to really blossom in spring. Your rhythm may of course be somewhat faster, you don't HAVE to hibernate for 3 months! However, noticing what season your body is in will enable you to feel highly aware, more in control and less confused by the changes you experience.
HOW TO RELEASE AND RECALIBRATE
There are many ways to move through the more challenging seasons. I suggest to my clients that they create a Feel Fabulous Fast Formula which I'll share on the blog next month. Creating a unique plan to lift yourself up and stay connected with yourself at a deep level, is something I consider to be an essential practice in our frantic world. However, we are all such unique souls that one size really does not fit all here.
We very often do require or certainly do benefit from professional support to speed up this process. I find a deep mindfulness process, twinned with powerful transformational coaching can get to the route incredibly quickly and is invariably the method I use, interspersed with others, to help my clients clear the way to their freedom and success.
I'm privileged to witness time and time again how releasing the heavy layers no longer serving us makes way for so much time, energy, clarity, health and not surprisingly, weight loss. How can we possibly feel at our best when we're holding onto limited beliefs, anxiety and other stories we aren't even consciously aware of? We simply don't always know what we don't know!
The good news is it's really not that complicated or painful to move through these limitations when you know how. Sadly, most people don't do this regularly and hence find they suddenly reach crisis points in their life because so much stress has accumulated.
Don't hesitate to check out the Energy Transformation Kickstart if you would love some support to help you to clear, release and unblock energy drains so that you can find your freedom and hence love your LIFE ... UNLIMITED.
A new school year. A fresh start. Do you ever wish you could clear the slate and start again with the excited newness of what's to come? Out with the old, in with the new.
As I saw my kids off to start their new school year this week I shared their new term mixed feelings. Sadness that the endless summer holiday has drawn to a close and that an alarm need be set. A sense of excitement of new beginnings. Mostly of hope, sprinkled with a touch of apprehension about the unknown.
Then once they were off it was back to ME! The projects I've been excited to launch can finally regain momentum.
So what's new for you with these September vibes? Headspace to actually consider what's ahead? Time to focus on a new work opportunity or on a business idea? A commitment to a new gym or eating routine? Maybe even embracing an exciting new idea, to enable you to grow, dive deeper into your soul and allow you to feel the sense of fulfilment you've been seeking.
Change and movement are life.
Stagnant is restrictive, slow, dull.
Sometimes it's very clear what we need and want to do. Other times not so much. Or, we may have grand ideas but they just seem unrealistic or we don't know where to start. So often we don't do anything. We get stuck. Especially when we are time short or thoroughly exhausted.
Are you clear what's next for you?
Are you sure that when you do / have / or feel the ‘next thing’ that it will give you the satisfaction you desire?
Are you sure you’re on the right path?
If not it's worth checking in with yourself.
How well do you really know yourself and what will truly make you feel happy, healthy and fulfilled?
Are you getting in your own way?
Are you resisting change?
These limitations aren't always conscious resistance.
Sometimes it seems there really is no way out of the situation but actually, when you re-frame or are able to see things differently, there are possibilities galore. When in a frustrating or restricting situation, it might be worth asking yourself a few good questions such as...What might work? How could I try doing this differently? How do I want to feel about this? Our answers can be rather revealing and from there it can be much easier to take inspired action than reminding ourselves that we 'don't know' or 'can't do'.
As I say to my patients and clients often, just take one baby step forward at a time.
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step." - Confucius
So I do hope this change of season goes well for you, your projects gain momentum and you feel exactly the way you desire.
If you'd like more guidance to help increase your clarity, sense of purpose and wellbeing, I'd be delighted to share a simple technique I use with my clients and patients to help get out of overwhelm and into clarity and flow. I share a short guided breathing technique designed to quickly calm the mind and find a grounded place within from which it’s easier to make decisions and know where to focus. You can access the 3 minute BREATHE WELL audio HERE.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Sally Dibden is a Health, Life and Performance Coach to driven achievers around the globe. She is the founder of The Wellbeing Consultants™ and HER Space™, a community dedicated to women’s health and performance. She also runs her Physiotherapy and Yoga and Pilates Clinic in France where she lives with her family near Geneva. Sally specialises in supporting and empowering dynamic women to optimise their energy, health, hormones and performance. Her ethos being that optimal success and happiness in whatever leadership role - whether that be as an entrepreneur, busy professional or executive, teacher or parent, comes from optimal holistic health. Sally has worked with thousands of patients and clients over her 25 year career as a therapist and understands the tendency of high achievers to stretch themselves. She helps her clients reach their potential with mind body balance not burnout, enabling them to enjoy and sustain their energy for all their ambitious goals.
If you’re anything like the modern 30+ something, chances are you may not be bursting with energy. You might have ‘just enough’ to get you through the day. But really, when did just enough become good enough?
When you have more than enough energy you:
jump out of bed in the morning so pumped for the day you can’t wait to get started
have plans in the diary that include activities other than work, sleep, eat and writing to do lists (again, so you can tick off the ones you did yesterday to make yourself feel like you are getting somewhere)
don’t shout at your kids, partner or anyone else within earshot...or want to (you like to hold it together publicly).
The energy slump could start anywhere. A difficult transition period at work or an overseas move. Lack of sleep due to a consistently disturbed night from your 5 year old or snoring partner. Lack of passion in your current role at work or in your business.
The problem is that when this surviving mode becomes the norm, other parts of our life start to suffer. Particularly our relationships.
So what’s going on and what to do about it?
Well the deep scientific answer about what’s going on is your hormones and a whole bunch of background hormonal processes that just happen (thanks amazing body!) without us having to tell it to do anything.
The more superficial answer is lengthy. You need more sleep. Exercise more. Eat better food. Be more mindful. Find your passion yada yada. We’ve heard it all before and kind of know there’s truth to all of that.
But when you haven’t got a great deal of time or energy (or patience) to start with, this sounds like a whole lot more to put on the to do list.
We are all bioindividuals that need unique solutions. So whilst the above may work for your best mate, you might need to do all the same things (or not) in a completely different order to get results that are both fast and lasting. So where ‘should’ you start?
I prefer to commence with where you shouldn’t start, because that’s a really quick answer. Google! This option makes it quite probable that you’ll google for hours, only to lose precious sleep, increase anxiety and due to perception bias, see only what you’re looking for.
The best place of all to start is to do nothing. For at least 10 minutes, every day, for a week. Preferably in the morning before your day begins and your head gets full of craziness. During this time of nothing you’ll breathe deeply and ask yourself questions like “What does my body need today?” “What does my soul need today?” “What’s the one thing I need to prioritise today?” Then you’ll listen. That’s it. You’ll get out of your head and get connected to your very knowing body, mind and soul.
Then what? You’ll take trusting action based on the answers you hear, not only your to do list. The human body and mind are incredible in their ability to tell us intuitively what we need. We are often our own best doctors, therapists and coaches. And whilst hiring all the aforementioned can be super valuable at times, learning the essential skills for ourselves is invaluable.
Our online Life Unlimited Mastermind is about to kick off and has energy as a central component. It uses my unique and proven system to help busy, driven women feel more energised, happier and self-confident, from the inside out. Do note, side effects may include losing weight, balancing hormones and finding crystal clear clarity about where you’re heading in life! Find out all the details HERE.
Wow here we are on the final Friday of 2016!
As the year draws to an end it is so worth taking a moment (or day!) to celebrate all that 2016 has brought for you. Even the not so good stuff often has a blessing somewhere though we can't always see that at the time.
So take a few minutes, in the shower, with a notebook, or doing ya active thing with a walk / run or yoga to simple reflect on all that was 2016.
Consider, is there any 'clearing' to be done? By that I don't just mean tidying the house - though I do have a massive urge to physically tidy up today and hence will be doing so! Often we need to 'create space' for the new ideas and projects ahead. This can include headspace too, hence the emotional clearing comes in here, (that's a whole blog post!)
I know I've done a ton of emotional clearing this year hence it's time for the practical for me. How about you? It's all part of the reset for the New around the corner.
Would love to hear any celebrations and resets below.
Meanwhile wishing you a very celebration for 2017!
Once you're done above, if you'd like some help to plan a successful, healthy and happy 2017 that doesn't involve 'resolutions' then you might like this mini training I hosted last night. Pop your name in and I'll send you the replay here: https://sallydibden.leadpages.co/2017-webinar-registration…/
A few years ago I recall hearing about being in your 'feminine' power and not really embracing the idea. Sounded a tad 'psychobabel' for my liking.
Fortunately, things change. If you've been reading my blog for a while, you may already know that this year has been a rather full-on journey of development as I committed to a year-long high level coaching programme which is just drawing to a close. It's revealed many things about myself and my business - which I did expect and hope for given the high level of investment.
However, there's been a bonus I didn't expect - I've really come to bond with my feminine side!
How's your feminine chick doing? Is she ruling your behaviour or does she take the backseat? Maybe you're not particularly sure...
I'll explain this in terms of archetypes, of which there are many. An empowered woman may aspire to be in her 'Queen' archetype: she's strong and yet caring, can lead yet knows when to step back, she will respond not react.
I like this Queen woman ... she 'owns' her place in the world and is a great, yet gracious leader. She's intuitive, kind, decisive, knows when to say no. She's fierce and usually gets what she wants, but not at the expense of others. She takes great care of herself and rules with both her head and her heart. She asks for help as opposed to demanding it and because of this she receives it.
Receiving. That deserves a blog of it's own. Next time. For now, the power of the feminine energy...
I have to say I often mistook 'feminine' to mean flouncy, flowery, certainly not strong or aspirational to me. But I've come to think differently as I realise I had been operating primarily in my 'male' energy for many years, for many reasons and it was no longer serving me.
Sound familiar? And if so what to do?!
Well if this resonates with you at all, you might want to consider how your masculine and feminine 'energies' are balanced at the moment. And just to clarify, whilst the queen archetype is clearly for the women, the female energy is actually applicable (albeit to a much lesser extent) in men too.
A big give-away is the ability to respond and not react.
A well-balanced woman will have the wisdom to always respond.
She won't let herself get so exhausted that she snaps.
She's smart enough and self-aware enough to be able to step back and consider what's really going on before she takes things personally.
She isn't on an emotional rollercoaster because she doesn't get involved in unnecessary drama.
I could go on. I think you get the idea.
Anyway, particularly if you're fiercely independent (yep that was definitely me!), whilst this has it's strengths and has no doubt helped get you where you are today, you might want to tap into this feminine stuff as it can really help rocket you to your desired level of success/happiness, whatever is important to you.
Awareness that you may be operating heavily in your masculine energy is definitely the first stage, so by just acknowledging that there might be some exploring to do here is a great start.
To take it further try journalling or visualising how your 'best' self would take care of the situation you find yourself in. She holds many keys and a lot of freedom.
The modern female leader does not need to do it all and burn out. She operates in a much smarter, aware and feminine way. Do not mistake this for weakness - she is very fierce indeed!
Would love to hear your thoughts! Do comment below :)
For more about how to live life as your 'best' self, do check out our 'Life Unlimited' Signature Coaching Programme to help keep you highly purposeful and energised. It's totally bespoke to your needs and designed to help you feel fulfilment at a deep core level for sustained happiness and success. The 'bonus' is that you can gain enormous health benefits too! You can check it out HERE. >>
You may not feel like a high level athlete, but you may have (or need!) more in common with an Olympian than you think. Are you highly driven, determined and persistent? Do you have a desire to do the things that really matter to you exceptionally well - ideally perfectly?
Most people want to be great at being themselves. They don’t necessarily walk around saying it, but if you asked them, certainly the people I’m surrounded by most days wouldn’t say they want to be below average.
They want to be great at their work, recognised for their achievements, happy, active and balanced, an awesome parent, sufficiently wealthy ... the list continues.
It's funny I still call England home. My home is clearly in France. We've lived here for over 9 years!
Given, 80% of my clients are expats, I know this 'where is home' uncertainty feeling is very common and this can be very unsettling ...
